Life is the opposite of fixed. You always do something in your life because of fear of failure or greed of praise from people who like or hate you or making them jealous that you are rocking. But whenever you fail to do so you get disappointed and this is not good for you. The shame of failure in career or anything else in life gets to the core of our egos, our identities, our self-esteem, and our feelings of emotional well-being. Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you. Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are. You have nothing to prove to anyone. Absolutely nothing. You have nothing to prove to anyone, and you’ll do everything in your power to convince you that it’s true. Failing makes you worry about what other people think about you. Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire. The truth is that there will always be people in this world who are smarter/better than you, better looking than you, more influential than you and this is the fact you can’t change it.
You don’t need to prove to the world that you “made it”. Chasing the chasing of the people who will judge you regardless of what you do is complete insanity. It’ s true that people may judge you, but after spending a few seconds doing it, they’re completely over it. Most people don’t give any real energy to the clothes that you’re wearing, the person you’re dating, the business/blog that you’re starting, or any good job you get.
The problem is that most of the time you used to compare yourself to these people constantly, and predictably, the outcome didn’t play out very well for you. Regardless of what you might believe, you don’t need to measure up or prove your self-worth to anyone.
Your standards for your life are the only standards that matter. If you keep doing a comparison or trying to be like your those people, You will be horribly depressed thinking about the number of people who are “better” than you. You will end up acting like you’re superior to the people who you believe you’re “better” than. If you’ve got a major goal and you’re serious about achieving it, you’ll never get there without a serious dose of determination! A determination is to success as oxygen is to life.
Many of us allow fear to paralyze us because we don’t like feeling fear. The fear of failing can be immobilizing – it can cause us to do nothing, and therefore resist moving forward. But if you simply allow yourself to feel the fear when it shows up, you will notice that it quickly dissipates and suddenly the situation feels more manageable. Think of the opportunities you’ll miss if you let your failures stop you. Failure can also teach us things about ourselves that we would never have learned otherwise. Failure can help you discover how strong a person you are. Expand your goal to include learning something new and you will never technically “fail” because there is always something to be learned. The best outcomes are created when we balance positive thinking with visualizing the future obstacles and struggles we will encounter.
The fear of failure is that it tends to operate on an unconscious level. It is important to accept that failure makes you feel both fear and shame and do the things which you actually want to do. Accepting and learning from those insights is key to succeeding in life. If you’re afraid of failing at something, having a “Plan B” in place can help you feel more confident about moving forward. Start by setting small goals that will help build your confidence. Learn how to explore and evaluate all possible outcomes rationally and develop contingency plans. By moving forward slowly but steadily, you’ll begin to overcome your fear. Don’t think about what people think and make their opinion about you. I am telling you a famous story about it:
A man and his son were once going with their donkey to market. As they were walking along by his side a countryman passed them and said, “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?” So the man put the boy on the donkey, and they went on their way.
But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy young boy, he lets his father walk while he rides.”
So the man ordered his boy to get off and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other, “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”
Well, the man didn’t know what to do, but at last, he took his boy up before him on the donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.
The men said, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours — you and your hulking son?”
The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, until at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them until they came to a bridge, when the donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle, the donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together, he was drowned.
This makes you understand how people observe you and Try to please everyone, and you will please no one!!!