Giving up temporary pleasure for future gains is called delayed gratification. An individual’s ability to delay gratification plays a significant role in shaping their health, well-being, and success in each aspect of life. If given a choice between receiving 1 dollars today and 10 dollars tomorrow, most of us would likely opt for the latter. This kind of decision-making process is Delayed Gratification, and we practice it every time we consciously forgo immediate rewards to reap the benefits of a more distant goal. No matter how bad you are at resisting temptations, there are ways to enhance self-control if you’re motivated to use them. Delayed gratification is one of the most effective personal skill of successful people. There is a strong connection between leaving temporary pleasure and achieving success. You can take an example like whenever you achieve good marks in any exam, you leave the pleasure of watching tv or something else. If you make money through investment, then you may leave the temporary pleasure of expenses. We often make our life choices according to how we can avoid pain in the present moment and, in doing so, fail to see that the path of delayed gratification is sometimes where the real solutions to our problems lie. As we get mature, we must learn to tolerate the discomfort of delayed gratification if we have a greater goal in mind. Mature or older people don’t expect others to meet their needs or expectations. They understand and accept that they won’t always be gratified in life.
Being able to delay satisfaction isn’t the easiest skill to acquire for the common man. It seems impossible for people who haven’t learned to control their impulses and quick reaction habit. Years of habit cements an individual’s self-control. Choosing to have something now might feel good, but making the effort to have discipline and manage your impulses can result in better rewards in the future. Over time, delaying gratification will improve your control over yourself and unconsciously this will help you to achieve your long-term goals faster.
When struggling with an impulse, replace tempting thoughts with others. If possible, physically remove yourself from the situation. Then, keep your mind busy with other interesting activities which you like most. Take an example if you wish to have good body shape and now you have to leave the pleasure of eating cake, then do not think about cake. Go outside and do something else like yoga or exercise or eat healthy snacks. Next thing you can do for delayed gratification is prepared your Why Sheet. Give a strong reason to yourself to achieve something. Like in the previous example avoiding cake give you good shape but in why sheet you must give strong why like you do not take sugar or cake because you want to live a long healthy and good life. You want to spend more time with your family not because you wish to show off your fitness to others. Strong reason will help you always. Another way to achieve delayed gratification is to break your goal into chunks. Take an example if you fix a goal to invest 6 lakhs in a year then you need to invest 50,000 per month in the bank rather than spend on luxury items or anywhere else. But when you achieve your amount of 6laks at the end of the year, then you can reward yourself for this achievement by purchasing that item which you want most or going for movie or dinner in your favorite place. Doing this you are avoiding depression of self-control. Delayed gratification is very rare and hard to achieve at this time because we live in an environment of instant gratification. Whenever we wish to do something it will do in few seconds like if you wish to have pizza in few seconds you can place an order, if you want to talk someone, in few seconds you can talk by using social media or cellphone. There are no so many efforts require nowadays that’s why self-control is very rare to find.
Avoiding temptation requires anticipating situations where unwanted desires might emerge and taking proactive steps to ensure that one doesn’t succumb to the problematic desire. By delayed gratification, you can compete with other and win over them as most of them are used to living in an instant gratification world. By setting well-defined goals you can separate yourself from ordinary common people who didn’t have the ability of self-control. Self-controlling power is rare nowadays but if you succeed in doing so, success will come in all area of life. Lack of this delayed gratification success is far away for most people in life. As everyone knows that sugar is harmful but one few control over their eating habit. Everyone knows that saving and investing is good for financial freedom but only few can avoid temporary spending. Rewarding after achievement of goal will help you always.